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[scottobear]

woo.

Is it normal for a male to have fantasies of raising a child with a woman? another in my long list of reasons I think somebody slipped me a spare X chromosome. I think of my with her in a year, 5 years, 20 years... and whatever comes with it..I think that once we were together, a baby would follow quickly...for she's not only a brilliant and loving woman, but I find her to be fantastically beautiful and erotic. I imagine in a short span there'd be a little girl with my blue eyes and her red hair & fair skin... I wonder what sort of parent I'd be, and what sort of partners my love and I would be like... we synch up a lot, and I feel we have pretty similar values, too. I wonder how we'd balance out discipline and the desire to have fun...

Is there such a thing as a 'paternal instinct'? I think of the joy that would come from helping to create a life... to nurture it, assist in it growing, watching it blossom... going through the good times and bad. I imagine the pride in my love's eyes as the munchkin takes first steps, says first words... reading with them at night, helping with homework, being there for them.

I also think about my love as we'd grow older together... maybe having grandchildren. (mind you, I'm picturing that 20-25 years from now... )

I don't know... all I do know is that I love her more and more every day.

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[toosweet.livejournal.com]

scotto=normal...actually more than normal, you sound like you'd be an extrodinary daddy

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Thanks... that's praise indeed.

i just don't know if I know any men who dream of that sort of thing...

[toosweet.livejournal.com]

i have...and it just means you'll be the best daddy ever with those feeling happenin even before the fact...and your really lucky too, some men don't ever get them and some don't get them until it happens...so feel comfort with your feelings

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

that I shall! thanks. :)

[toosweet.livejournal.com]

you welcome! ;o) *wonders where all the men like him are hiddin*

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Well, they say there's a few yeti in the smokey mountains....

[toosweet.livejournal.com]

i need a map...draw me a map...or else i'll get lost again and end up in this hell hole again

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Hmm... are you coming from I95?

[toosweet.livejournal.com]

i don't know, i'm lost in some hell hole

[lique.livejournal.com]

You've got my X! I was wondering who stole that. ;)

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Sorry about that... but really... you had two.. couldn't you spare one?

[lique.livejournal.com]

Ya, but, you got the one with the maternal instinct attached. Which, actually, come to think of it works out fabulously for both of us. They'd be luckier kids with you ... which is not to be down on me by any means, just up on you. :)

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Thanks! Yeah, I've had mommy-itis for a little while now.

[applelard.livejournal.com]

That was beautiful.

[scottobear.livejournal.com]

thank you. :)

[krussell.livejournal.com]

for what it's worth, my husband was more into having kids than i was. he had girls names picked out before we even got married. he cut both of their umbilical cords when they were born. he still loves clothes shopping for both of them. and we're thinking of adopting, because we both want another one. let me tell you, it is such a relief to have someone like him!

[newtrip.livejournal.com]

whoa. i just posted to my journal about the same topic, and then read your post...

::eerie music::

freaky.

:)

but i know what you're talkin' about, that's for sure!

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[scottobear.livejournal.com]

weirdly! glad to know i'm not the only one!