more mixed feelings....

[scottobear]

In my local news. - -

Convicted molester seeks OK to marry

A woman begged a Broward circuit judge Thursday for permission to marry the man she loves: John Medlock, convicted child molester.

His fiancée, Katherine Anderson, says she wants to marry Medlock as soon as possible and have him move in with her and her children, a 10-year-old boy and a 12-year-old girl.

Anderson told Circuit Judge Marc Gold that she was aware of her fiancé's prison record.

``Before we even started dating, he showed me all of his paperwork,'' Anderson said. ``He's a wonderful man. He's about to be ordained as a minister at our church.''

the whole story is here-

Now, he's served what the law feels is his time... and I think that he should have the right to marry, if the family is willing to accept him... but I honestly don't think I could forget his past. Forgiving an admitted sexual predator? I don't know if I could. I know I wouldn't want the wedding happening to someone I cared deeply about... I'd have trouble working in the same office with the guy. I get angry just thinking about it.

Comments

Re: criminals who marry...

[lique.livejournal.com]

They don't. I wish they could, but we'd have to restructure huge chunks of the legal system, which still does nothing for people's mindsets and insecurities. You can't makes laws for all things.

Personally, I think we need to make a concentrated effort to simply teach people to give more of a damn about themselves than all of that. Though this is just my opinion, I'm guessing the woman in question has self esteem issues sky high and feels on a certain subconscious level that (a) she's not worth anything without a man, and (b) this man is the best she's worth either way. If she didn't feel that way, it would be a non-issue ... she'd be able to look at his possible relationship with her children more objectively. And keep them safer for it.

Re: criminals who marry...

[scottobear.livejournal.com]

Quite possible. She also might be a very forgiving and kind person, actually willing to give this guy a second chance (something I wouldn't be able to do) Hard for me to second-guess the woman's motives.