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scottobearNow then. I think that the situation is an unfortunate one, but really... how many times does this have to happen?
If you post something to the net, odds are very good that someone will be able to read it. If there's something you want to keep a secret but kept in your journal, I recommend you post it private, so you can keep it, and nobody else spreads it around. I imagine 99.9% of folks out there won't repeat it, but stuff can come out a number of ways, especially when you don't know who your friends are out here. if you want particular friends to see it, put it out using a filter (that's how I put love letters out in my lj for my sweetums). Going friends-only isn't going to help, unless you firmly know the nature of each and every person on your list, and what the cache on their computer looks like, and if you know that their (and your) account is hack proof. (it Isn't)
Expect that if you write something that someone else can read, that they might tell some other person, cut and paste, or reiterate it in some other way. (I make a point of not passing on private information, and had to jump through hoops to clear my name. I still bet that there are folks 'outside the know' that think I'm untrustworthy...anyone who actually knows me can attest that I'm good that way.)
On a slightly different note, A lot of Lj's have been smelling like high school cliques. Those guys are free to post whatever they like, but I don't have to read them. I recommend that anyone who doesn't like what they're reading in someone else's journal to stop reading it, step away from the fight, if you can. What does the opinion of an idiot mean to you? I'm very impressed at how Mateo recently dealt with some dolts... Live and let live. He came out looking like a gent and a scholar, while others looked like classless jerks. That's the way to handle folks... don't stoop to their level if you can help it.
If you post something to the net, odds are very good that someone will be able to read it. If there's something you want to keep a secret but kept in your journal, I recommend you post it private, so you can keep it, and nobody else spreads it around. I imagine 99.9% of folks out there won't repeat it, but stuff can come out a number of ways, especially when you don't know who your friends are out here. if you want particular friends to see it, put it out using a filter (that's how I put love letters out in my lj for my sweetums). Going friends-only isn't going to help, unless you firmly know the nature of each and every person on your list, and what the cache on their computer looks like, and if you know that their (and your) account is hack proof. (it Isn't)
Expect that if you write something that someone else can read, that they might tell some other person, cut and paste, or reiterate it in some other way. (I make a point of not passing on private information, and had to jump through hoops to clear my name. I still bet that there are folks 'outside the know' that think I'm untrustworthy...anyone who actually knows me can attest that I'm good that way.)
On a slightly different note, A lot of Lj's have been smelling like high school cliques. Those guys are free to post whatever they like, but I don't have to read them. I recommend that anyone who doesn't like what they're reading in someone else's journal to stop reading it, step away from the fight, if you can. What does the opinion of an idiot mean to you? I'm very impressed at how Mateo recently dealt with some dolts... Live and let live. He came out looking like a gent and a scholar, while others looked like classless jerks. That's the way to handle folks... don't stoop to their level if you can help it.
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Date: 2001-05-21 12:33 pm (UTC)you rock, sir.
Thanks!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:35 pm (UTC)Re: Thanks!
Re: Thanks!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:43 pm (UTC)Re: Thanks!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:44 pm (UTC)absolutely!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:39 pm (UTC)and I find it boring in LJ.....
I vow to keep it real and simple....
Re: absolutely!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:40 pm (UTC)so true!
Re: so true!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:42 pm (UTC)Re: so true!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:46 pm (UTC):)
Re: so true!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:55 pm (UTC)Re: so true!
Date: 2001-05-21 04:31 pm (UTC)Bravo!
Re: Bravo!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:44 pm (UTC)Schools Out!
-Granma sed that
*cough*
Re: Schools Out!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:50 pm (UTC)Re: Schools Out!
she cooks real good too Scotto!
*cough*
Re: Schools Out!
Date: 2001-05-21 01:02 pm (UTC)Re: Schools Out!
an i learns a whole lot readin' yer dang LJ too Scotto!!
Granma is a real good Lady an that's for dang Shure
*cough*
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Date: 2001-05-21 12:43 pm (UTC)There is an African saying and I'll paraphrase...speaking has more power than writing since you can always destroy what you've written but you can never take back the words you say.
I've alway considered writing in my Livejournal to be similar to getting up on a bench in the park with a megaphone and speaking to a crowd.
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Date: 2001-05-21 12:49 pm (UTC)it's funy, sometimes I realise that other folks read it, and other times, it feels like I'm talking to myself.
megaphones & crowds
although, I extend it to anything I ever write or say to anyone. I spent 12 years in 2 small, church affiliated schools where there was no more popular a sin than gossip.
I decided early that I would never voice a thought I wouldn't want to see up on a billboard or on the front page of the daily paper. I also decided I'd never feel embarassed about what I did say or do...and ironically, it made me seem fairly outrageous in comparison to those around me. I never let myself think for one moment that my life is private or that I have any secrets & I act accordingly.
You go dude!
Re: You go dude!
Date: 2001-05-21 12:51 pm (UTC)Ignorance is bliss
Date: 2001-05-21 01:36 pm (UTC)*wanders off nodding and smiling*
Re: Ignorance is bliss
Date: 2001-05-21 02:01 pm (UTC)Too busy using your "spoon with whom you see fit" powers?
Re: Ignorance is bliss
Date: 2001-05-21 02:24 pm (UTC)Re: Ignorance is bliss
Date: 2001-05-21 03:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-05-21 05:01 pm (UTC)i do judge.. yes.
this should be fun..yes.
On the other hand, can you see my point of view if i tell you i really like most of the people i've gotten to know here, so when i get private emails stating he said/she said type drama, and feel i'm being asked to make a choice regarding who's right and whose wrong.. i get caught up in it. i get caught in having to choose and i hate that.
And the thing is, nothin gever gets truly resolved.. look at what happened to you.. and she never made a public apology either.
i'm just tired of this... but being relatively new to the net environment in this way.. i guess im just learning too.
peace scott.
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Date: 2001-05-21 05:10 pm (UTC)In all honesty, I'm tired of it too... My next reflex is to step away from all involved. Too many people around for me to have to deal with the hurtful.